faith is going to be a big sister. it was definitely exciting telling her that day that i was expecting another child. i spent the entire afternoon rehearsing my lines and preparing for the moment when i’d share the news with her. when i asked why she was wiping tears away from her eyes, she simply replied, “because i’m so happy mommy.”
if you cannot relate to this situation, then allow me to help by simulating the scene. its like telling your parents that you got hired for your first job or taking your true love home to meet your family for the first time. the atmosphere is uneasy but exciting. you feel a nervous knot in your stomach. or how about if you’ve ever been in your car alone, sitting at a traffic light and you look to your left and see the most handsome guy gleaming at you-that feeling right there that builds in the pit of your gut. as the light changes to green, you pull forward,excitement builds and you feel a rush to howler to allow everything to escape.
we just returned home from her afterschool program, unpacked her homework and was reviewing with her when i felt the urge to splurge. i made sure her cousin was occupied with toys in the other room and came back in. she was sitting next to me when i shared that i was pregnant. she was so happy. she kept smiling from ear to ear, wiping the tears away that seemed to fill her eyelids almost instantly. then a bunch of questions poured out.
“is it a girl or boy, mommy? how long will it take to come out? will i be able to hold it and feed it? what are you going to name him? have you gotten to see it yet? can i go with you to your doctor’s office?” these were just some of her questions. later that night before we fell asleep she expressed gently, “mom, i want a baby brother.” when i asked her why she replied, “so that i dont have to share my toys.”
after asking around i realized that she wanted the opposite sex because she didn’t want to feel as if she had to compete with the new baby. when i heard this i didnt know if i should be worried of her concern or appreciative of her honesty. so i approached faith in bed one night and she further explained herself. its natural when a child responds this way and i basically reassured her that there will be tough times when she’ll feel neglected but i would try my best to incorporate everyone and include her in her new baby sister’s daily routine and life.
today, i must say, faith is the most supportive with my pregnancy. she’ll remind me to rest, sit down, “get off my feet”, eat, or watch my belly with the corners of tables, walls, etc. when she sees me, she’ll come up to me with kisses for both the baby and me. i dont care what the experts say, faith is going to be the best big sister and the most helpful one. sometimes i feel she’s more excited then i am. i thank God for these blessings in my life and the opportunity to share this new baby with such a beautiful daughter-faith.
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